the trials and tribulations of a well-endowed woman
my breasts offend my father
even more than my opinions;
it’s the size that’s insolent — bursting
out of t-shirts, spilling
out of kameezes that hang
demurely on any other girl.
the most mundane actions inspire a filial
mistrust that extends well beyond your
garden-variety middle-class moral suspicion:
going out for coffee with a friend, being on the phone;
in our lounge, leaning back
dupatta-less on the couch becomes
an act of sexual rebellion.
my sisters get hugs;
I, at best, get awkward back-pats.
felt up by a darzi at 10, groped by a driver at 11,
and too many times to count since; intrusive
hands years of poor posture couldn’t deflect.
I envy other women their ability to wear
their sexuality like a mask, to take
off and put on as they please
and, not least, I envy them
their delicates that actually
look delicate; mine, all hefty
cotton and industrial-strength
underwire, look just like armor.
fortunately, though, the man I love
~ Hira A
Vulture Magazine interviews Willow Wilson, a Muslim comic artist who created the female Muslim superhero Kamala Khan for Marvel.
Kamala Khan is a 16 year old child of immigrant parents from Pakistan living in Jersey City who, like any other superhero, fights bad guys and saves the day. Equally as interesting as Kamala is her creator, Willow Wilson, who resembled the average white woman - before she converted to Islam.
Muslim superhero comics are nothing new— Naif Al-Mutawa from Kuwait created the 99, a group of Muslim superheroes from around the world that resemble all of Allah’s 99 traits. 19 year old Deena Mohamed created the Muslim veiled superhero Qahera who fights social problems affecting women in Egypt. But what Miss Kamala Khan represents is one of the first mainstream Muslim superheroes in the United States.
from Jessica Valenti’s He’s a Stud, She’s a Slut and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know.
I wish I had read this a couple years back because this was my life.
Evidence shows that women are less self-assured than men;and that to succeed, confidence matters as much as competence. Here’s why, and what to do about it.
Elif Shafak, The Forty Rules of Love
I read this book when it first came out and it was the kind of book that made you feel at peace with the world for at least a week. Coming across this passage again makes me feel that same feeling.